Am I supposed to hurt every day??


So since this journey began, almost a month ago now, I’ve had some weekly goals I need to achieve every week. Some of them easier than others, I have one about financial consistency that’s just about me paying my bills every month and putting a chunk in to my savings and investing accounts. That one is set up automatically with my bank, so that’s about as easy as it can get. Other ones however…. Like my work out schedule, are a bit more of a chore….

I’ve committed to working out at least 3 times a week, but because I’m enthusiastic I end up working out a little more often than that. I’m not doing anything crazy, just some simple curls, lifts, squats, push-ups, and sit-ups. I’ve got 20 lbs weights, and no other equipment so I’m sort of limited by that. I’ve been eating pretty well and getting a solid 7ish hours a night, but my god…. EVERYTHING hurts. My joints ache, my muscles scream, and just reaching up to grab things from my cupboard hurts my shoulders.

I used to be in pretty good shape as a teenager, I don’t remember things hurting this much just from working out from time to time. Maybe I’m getting old? If this is 29 though I can’t imagine what 40+ must be like. I’ve seen a number of 40+ year old people who have very active lives, some who are pretty buff to boot, so maybe I’m just a wimp. That’s possible.

Let me give a bit of back story on why I think physical fitness is one of my dream goals. I have a few conditions that are known to get worse as your health fails, mild Tourette syndrome, mild adhd, and asthma to name a few. All of which are things I’d like to mitigate as much as possible and a properly taken care of body helps with all of those and so many other conditions that might spring up later in life. Taking care of my body is also a matter of shallow pride as well, it’s no secret that being fit and healthy increases a persons confidence and outlook on life, both things I’d love to bring to the table as I move forward.

Also, as a silly side note, my great great grandfather as well as my grand father died at the age of 81. I’ve already told my father that when he gets close to his 82nd birthday I’ll schedule us for sky diving, followed by a white-water rafting trip, and if he survives that we’ll go bear wrestling. (He can go first though) So if all 3 of those men lived to 81, I have to get there as well and we’ll have a family legend of the men who always happen to die on their 81st birthday. Spooky huh?

Anyhow, proper health is such a benefit to a persons over all life that if it wasn’t something I was working on then basically everything else would be a waste. I could become the most interesting man in the world, but if I die at 35 from poor health then what was the point? There’s really no goal or achievement more important than maintaining good health. Excluding raising good children or taking care of someone else in need of course. There are some things greater than yourself.

I’d get in to more, but this isn’t the rambling section of the podcast, it’s just the blog. The short of it is that overall health should be a goal for everyone, and one we take a lot more seriously than we are right now. I’m not exactly a poster boy for health, sitting at 250 lbs, but even I can say that without health there’s no need for wealth.

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Why we’re adulting, but not adults


Well this might tick off everyone from my generation, but I’ll try to explain what I mean and hopefully not get myself hung in the process. My page is called Adulting To Adulthood because I see adulthood as this far off thing, a confident state of being that most of my generation and all of the would-be adults younger than us will likely have to work hard to reach. It’s a state of maybe not knowing how to do everything, but at least knowing how to begin tackling everything life throws at them. It’s a mix of a certain set of experiences lived combined with a mindset of “just getting it done” that might sadly be a state of being that might die off with the growth of newer ages of technology.

Why do I say that? Because the previous generations didn’t have the same opportunities available to them, nor the same amount of information thrown at them. Our parents’ generations were limited by the time it took to travel and send information, but this limitation really boil down to them only being taught the basics of how the world around them worked because that’s all they really needed. They lived in a time where their most complicated run in with technology was figuring out how to set the time on their VCR. (So many people won’t get that joke…..)

They lived in a time with far less opportunities for work, learning, or travel. The invention and explosion of the internet was something that happened in their later years, so it didn’t really affect their growth as a person in the same way it did the following generations. It’s hard for someone to get addicted to a phone game if they can’t even figure out how it works. Where as our generations grew up during that explosion and were shaped by it.

It may seem common place now, but where they carried tools and cash in their pockets, we carry plastic and the entirety of human knowledge and progress. Our phones, they both enrich and distract us from real life. For most of us however it’s a distraction, one that consumes our time as we’re exposed to the world of the internet. It’s an invaluable tool for our newly shrunk society, but its also why I personally think this distinction between our generations exists. A generation of people who were taught the basics of everything in their physical surroundings, because that’s all they easily had access to, and a generation who had to filter the entirety of human knowledge and progress to define a whole new version of what it meant to be a functioning adult.

That might sound hyperbolic, but I think its pretty accurate because we’re overwhelmed by a flood of information that mankind simply wasn’t exposed to prior to the internet. We’re the generations who had to decide, when you’re presented with the world, what do you do with it? We spent our developing years tackling this, and as a result we didn’t get the same basics our parents’ generation did. And to bring it all back around, this is where I think the distinction of Adulting versus a state of Adulthood lies. A confidence and sense of purpose born from knowing the basics and the ability to filter out everything else so they can focus on what’s important to them.

This only applies to the majority of course, some of us got out fine, but most of us were so bogged down with the amount we were exposed to when we were young that we’re still figuring things out. We’re at the age where the people around us consider us young adults, or (scarier yet) just “adults”, but we’ve had so much more to filter and work through that we’re just not there yet. We’re not yet grown in to the person we’re meant to become.

The right age, but the wrong person.

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Why getting started is easy


I’m sure you’ve heard “The first step is the hardest”, or “Mondays are the worst”, or something to that effect. But, does that make sense? Or is that just a mindset problem?

Let me explain. I’m one of those people who’s so full of ideas and things they’d like to do that I honestly never get anything done. I can’t finish things because before I get even close to the goal something else will have popped up in my head and I’m off to get that idea started. If you remember the “SQUIRREL!” dog from the movie UP, that’s me.

For me Tuesdays are what Mondays seem to be for everyone else. Maybe I’m just dense and it takes a full day for it to sink in, but I don’t think that’s the case. I see it like this, Monday should be your best rested day of your whole week. That first step should be something you do right after making the decision to start, so in my mind you should be at your most motivated, right?

It's all a matter of how you see the thing you’re trying to accomplish. Your first time working out might be physically harder on your body, but I’ve found I can get much further on motivation than on what I’d call “real” stamina. I’ve had days where I was fully rested and in great health where I’d only get about half of my workout in because I’d get bored of it and just call it quits early. Where as other days I’d workout, running purely on motivation, and end up pushing myself to the point of collapsing only to end up basically bedbound the next day.

This has been my experience throughout my life to this point, not so much a problem getting started but a problem keeping up the momentum. Because that makes the most sense, as time goes on you’re going to run out of stamina or attention for the thing you’re doing and it’ll slowly get harder to keep going. Which is me basically saying that I’ve been crushing this whole self-growth thing since I’ve started. Work-outs, scheduling, and the funny posts have been a lot of fun to do. Buuuuttt I can tell harder times are up ahead as I run out of steam it’ll be harder and harder to keep up this pace.

But for now this blurb has gone on for long enough. Maybe I’m just weird, but what do you think? Do you agree? Did I change your mind about getting started?

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The beginning of something new (And potentially awesome?)


This is the commencement, inception, emergence, beginning, birth, dawn… or well… start, of this blog, thought piece, blurb, record, diary, journal, or mind vomit committed to word… (Ok, I’ll stop.)

This is the start of my new blog, a journal of a panicking 29 year old one time college drop out turned graduate who’s approaching 30 for the same reason someone jumps off a sinking boat. The ocean is going to be cold, but the alternative would probably suck a lot more. So to put it mildly, I’m not where I imagined I’d be by 30 and I see this upcoming year as my chance to turn my life around.

So let’s start with a bit of background on where I am and why I’m panicking. Starting with where I thought I’d be at 30.(Brace yourself) A world travelling engineer who’s great at but isn’t limited to; cooking, mechanical/electrical repairs, alcohol brewing, money, language, music, home renovations, child raising, dancing, and of course who’s fit as a Greek god.

So…. Where am I at 29? Obviously I’ve been working towards my dream self right? I must be close, ya? Short answer… No. Long answer is that 30 always seemed so far away that I never bothered working towards my dreams. I’ve basically been procrastinating on my own life. It’s one thing to push off an essay to the last minute, you still get it done. (No matter how half assed) But without a deadline, life just seems to continue to drift on. Days flow in to weeks, weeks flow in to months, and before you know it you’re staring down the ocean and you’re forced to jump in without a life vest.

I’m getting ahead of myself though, let me break down what you can expect to see in this weekly blog. Each week I’ll be mostly writing about what I’m learning/working on that week and why I think it’s important. The idea being that you might see a trait or skill you might want to work on that you never considered before.

You can expect more of my dry/awkward sense of humor as we go forward with this blog. If that’s the sort of thing you’d like to have in your life, then stay along with us for the ride. As we go from “Adulting To Adulthood”.

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